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Figuring Yourself Out Through What You Believe

Figuring Yourself Out Through What You BelieveMurMarketing

COPYRIGHT 2020 JIM MURRAYI have always believed that the hardest thing to do in this life is to get to know yourself.

I suppose there are a lot of egotistical people who would disagree with me on that, and Lord knows there are a lot of highly self-involved people on the planet at the moment.

When I talk about getting to know yourself, I’m not referring to things like your favourite food or movie or whatever it is you like to do.

It’s more about the things that you feel deeply. What drives you. What you crusade for. What you really want your life to be like…Stuff like that.

I have always had a hard time getting a handle these sort of things. In fact, this is the first time that I can remember even thinking about it. And I’m not really even sure what triggered the thought in the first place.

Most of my life has been spent doing and thinking about stuff I was getting paid to think about. There was (and still is) a lot of that. And I enjoyed the hell out of it.

But just recently, like over the past year or so, as the realization that working was not anywhere near the necessity it used to be started to invade my psyche, some of my thinking turned inward.

Lucky Dog Me

One of the first things that occurred to me when I started to take the time to think about myself was that I had been, for pretty much all of my adult life, damn lucky. I had a great advertising agency career and an even better second career as an independent.

I married the right woman and didn’t fuck that up. I had two kids who both still talk to me and are now well adjusted, successful and happy adults. I have never had any health issues that couldn’t be managed.

I have maintained great relationships with my brother and sisters. I have never been arrested, (although the Trump administration might have something to say about that if I ever go to America again). And I have never grown tired of writing, paid or otherwise.

So does that make me someone who knows himself? I don’t know.I guess one way to define yourself is by the things you have come to believe. I have come to believe quite a few things and have sort of kept track of them.

The Stuff I Believe (In no particular order)

• I believe we really are all put here for a reason, but that relatively few of us ever get to realize that purpose.

• I believe that family is the most important thing in this life.
This became crystal clear the first time I was given my 2 minute old son Daniel to hold.

• I believe there are things we cannot control about the way the world works
and I have spent years learning not to be frustrated by that.

• I believe the things you believe are worth doing in this life are the things you should always work hardest at.


• I believe in sharing ideas freely
and allowing myself to be inspired by other peoples’ ideas.

• I believe that there is evil in the world
and working to fight it while not getting consumed by it is the tightrope that a lot of us walk.

• I believe that everybody has an agenda, even me.
And that my agenda is to try my best to do the right thing whenever possible.

• I believe that people overwhelmingly good
, but that the relatively few bad ones and the attention they garner makes it sometimes feel like it’s the other way round.

• I believe that the basic goodness in people
is what keeps the world from being torn to shreds.

• I believe that love is a much more powerful force on earth than hate.
And that we are in the early stages of a great resurgence of that axiom in our society.

• I believe that capitalism has been hijacked
and is now, very obviously being controlled by extremely greedy people. But I also believe that this is a pendulum that will soon swing back the other way. It’s what pendulums do.

• I believe that communication is the key to understanding
and the better we are at the former the more we will benefit from the latter.

• I believe that all religions have much more in common than anyone cares to admit.


• I believe that the human race is one thing
with many facets to make it interesting.

• I believe you can achieve whatever you set out to achieve in life
if you are willing to do the work that is required.

• I believe in the value of friends and the reality of enemies, the power of persuasion and the right to change your mind based on new information.


• Finally, I believe it’s important to be able to look in the mirror and actually like the person you see there.

Not everybody will share these beliefs. Because the great paradox of humanity is that even though we are all the same we are all different.

But in any case, it’s always a good thing to have a handle on what you believe.|

This has been a great intellectual exercise for me and it took quite a while to put this list together and I’m sure there’s more stuff that should be on it. I had to dig down quite a ways.

If you share some of these beliefs, that’s good. If you have your own set of beliefs, write them down and keep them close, and add to them as you go. You’ll be surprised at how much it can contribute to your health and well-being.

The world we live in right now is pretty much as crazy as it has ever been. But your own fate is always going to be controlled and determined by what you believe about yourself and about the world around you. That will not change no matter what.

Jim Murray is a writer, marketer, editorialist. reader, sports fan and TV watcher. He has been actively posting on social media since 1998. Jim is also a former ad agency writer and art director. He lives with his wife Heather in Canada on the Niagara Peninsula and does strategic and creative work for a small group of companies working to make a positive difference in the world.

My Current Blog Streams Include:

The Couch Potato Chronicles (Entertainment Opinion & Reviews (Book, TV, Movies, Sports, Web)

Brand New Day (Environmentally Conscious Products, Services & Processes)

Muritorial (Social Commentary)

Murmarketing (Communications Advice)

I am also a Featured Contributor on BizCatalyst360˚

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Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

10 months ago #9

John Rylance "reality is a reflection of your strongest belief" Reminds me of this "As a man thinks in his heart .. so he is."

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

10 months ago #8

#4
Harvey Lloyd Thanks for clarifying "feminist our brains" what? This female was scratching her brains ;~) "Finish with our brains" .. may it be ;~)

John Rylance

John Rylance

10 months ago #7

Oops ive just notice my post should read reality is a reflection.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

10 months ago #6

Jim, i am not sure what keyboard i was using., But, "Finish with our brains" A freudian slip maybe. and "I know for me that meant more..." Hope you are healing well.

John Rylance

John Rylance

10 months ago #5

#4
#3 #2 and Jim I wonder does this sum up your great insightful thoughts. Your reality is a relection of your strongest belief. Anon I think it probably does.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

10 months ago #4

Jim great thoughts. As work and the hustle of growing a family feminist our brains have lots of slack time. I know for me those Kent more mirror time in reflection. Liked your list. For me your questions were alway followed by what did i do to deserve, the love a good women, respect from family etc... My beliefs i think allowed this to happen: 1. Every human is sacred. Even if liking is hard to do 2. If you deserve my mouth, then you also deserve my ear, that why we have two. Double the listening. 3. Look past behavior before judgement. 4. When giving love it must be unconditional. If you cant love at that level, be Switzerland. Never leverage love for something you want 5. Even if i disagree, listen because i dont know everything and most likely you have something to teach 6.be present in the moment, dont live the future with those closest to you

Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris

Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris

10 months ago #3

As much as I'm tempted to write a short manifesto of my beliefs here, I'll just stick to one, which has been confirmed recently: I believe that seeing posts like this one on my beBee feed is what makes this platform great. I don't follow the OP but thanks to Fay Vietmeier, I got to see this. Even if the OP and I don't agree on some matters, we agree on the fundamentals (all the beliefs he stated here) and beBee enables the communication of this fact. So, big thanks to the beBee team that makes this possible! Cheers

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

10 months ago #2

The song in our heart should grow sweeter with age Lyrics reflect the light in our heart & reveal a soul that is sage "To know thyself” Truly is a life-journey As a woman of faith, I believe God knows me better than I know myself. Thus I seek Him to lead me to my deep places. Who we are can change .. as we journey .. as our level of consciousness grows ... as our self-awareness grows In the journey of self-discovery: our beliefs and values might change: .. some grow in strength ... some may fall away "Our essence and our light" ... this is in the spirit being. "We never look deeply into the quality of a tree; we never really touch it, feel its solidity, its rough bark, and hear the sound that is part of the tree. Not the sound of wind through the leaves, not the breeze of a morning that flutters the leaves, but its own sound, the sound of the trunk and the silent sound of the roots." ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti "Who am I" What is the quality of me? "The silent sound of my roots?" Inquiring minds & honest hearts should want to know. With absolute honesty, how might you answer this deep question? The answer is more for you to know than others. As a woman of faith ... "who I am" is determined by Whose I am.

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

10 months ago #1

Jim Murray An excellent post Jim. Many shared beliefs. I share hoping others might be inspired to self-discovery. The song in our heart should grow sweeter with age Lyrics reflect the light in our heart & reveal a soul that is sage "To know thyself” Truly is a life-journey As a woman of faith, I believe God knows me better than I know myself. Thus I seek Him to lead me to my deep places. Who we are can change .. as we journey .. as our level of consciousness grows ... as our self-awareness grows In the journey of self-discovery: our beliefs and values might change: .. some grow in strength ... some may fall away "Our essence and our light" ... this is in the spirit being. "We never look deeply into the quality of a tree; we never really touch it, feel its solidity, its rough bark, and hear the sound that is part of the tree. Not the sound of wind through the leaves, not the breeze of a morning that flutters the leaves, but its own sound, the sound of the trunk and the silent sound of the roots." ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti "Who am I" What is the quality of me? "The silent sound of my roots?" Inquiring minds & honest hearts should want to know. With absolute honesty, how might you answer this deep question? The answer is more for you to know than others. As a woman of faith ... "who I am" is determined by Whose I am.

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