Getting to Know the Essence of You

A million years ago, when I was in eighth grade, we had a Home Economics class about self-discovery. We were asked to list our personal values, both intrinsic and extrinsic, and to engage in an exercise about getting to know ourselves. I remember thinking I had no idea who I was, and looking back, I suspect that was probably the case for most of us. Teenagers tend to not think that way. Considering how much I hated Home Ec and my disdain for the teachers who taught it, that, oddly, was a lesson that stuck with me. In the years that followed, I often found myself asking how well I really knew myself, assessing my values,  and being mindful of who I wanted to be.

Many years later, I would embark on a spiritual journey that led me to explore this more deeply and teach me many valuable things about who we really are as humans and the power of connecting with our inner being. If this is a subject that intrigues you in any way, I suggest you explore the teachings of people like Dr. Wayne Dyer, Esther and Abraham Hicks and Eckhart Tolle. There are many, many others who write about this subject and who have influenced the thinking of many popular personal development authors, so feel free to explore them all, but finish this blog first!

Who are we? 

When someone asks us who we really are, many things may come to mind. We may define ourselves by our accomplishments, our gender, familial associations, our profession and our personality traits, but these are only elements of a life lived. Who we really are goes much deeper than what we see on the surface. Our nature is a spiritual nature. We had an energetic and spiritual existence before we ever had a physical body. As Dr. Wayne Dyer eloquently put it, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Our spiritual nature lives eternally.

Albert Einstein taught us that energy is neither created nor destroyed. It simply changes form. This means that the essence of who you are, is who you always were and will always be. We are closest to reflecting the true nature of our inner being on the day we are born. We are perfection even if a doctor says we are not. The essence of who we really are is not our physicality or our intellect, but rather our spirituality. At our core, we are the very essence of love, beauty, courage, kindness, joy, creativity and expansiveness. We are an extension of the source energy that created us and we embody all of the perfect qualities just mentioned. Once you fully accept this as your truth, nobody can take it away from you. More importantly, once you fully embrace this knowledge as your personal truth, nobody will be able to convince you that you are anything less, despite any label assigned to you by another human. You will be impervious to abuse, judgement and criticism.

Many of us spend our lives trying to either unload or carry the emotional baggage of our formative years. Our early experiences with teachers, peers, family members, etc. can severely impact our self esteem and the beliefs we have about our personalities, our intelligence and a whole host of other things. As adults, we find ways to cope with our feelings of ineptitude that may not always be very healthy. It is common for people to engage in addictive behaviour, abusive behaviour, co-dependence, perfectionism, “over achievement”, etc. to try to mask our pain or prove the world (and ourselves) wrong. Psychologists call these coping mechanisms, which is exactly what they are. They are ways to cope, but the talk usually remains in the head because in your heart, you still believe you are inept. It is only when you work to discover the nature of your true self and change your internal narrative that you can begin to change that relationship with yourself. Since all of our actions are a reflection of our relationship with ourselves it is critical to our well being on every level, to resolve this inner conflict.

There are many ways to work on nurturing your relationship with yourself, and I work with people in both groups and in private sessions to bridge that gap between the outer self and the inner self. My methods are effective, so if you would like to book a free 30-minute session to learn more about what I can do to help you, just let me know. If you just want to send me a quick message, that’s okay, too. You can do that through my website.

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About me:

I am a certified coach practitioner and the founder of Belly Busters™, a group coaching program that teaches people how to embrace a lifelong commitment to health and wellness. I am also a former public relations professional, adult educator and published author. My life experiences have been rich and have led me to the work I am doing to bring success and fulfillment to people all over the world. 

I believe that nothing works well in life if we are not in harmony with our inner being. Self-destructive behaviours, self-sabotaging behaviours, anger, and control issues indicate that there is a disconnect between the outer self and the divine inner self. Once you heal that relationship, you will discover your career, your business, external relationships, your health, and overall wellness will improve dramatically. Please visit my website www.reneecormier.com for information about what I do and to reach me for support with your goals.