Jim Murray

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In Memory Of My Brother Bob

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My heart is heavy this morning.
At 4:15 am today my brother, Bob Twidle passed away after a long illness.
In actuality he was my brother-in-law. He married my sister who is 20 years his junior about 30 years ago and our families merged.
Bob was a medical officer in the British Navy and then moved to Canada to start a family and a private practice. So our family was actually his second. We got to know his kids when they were much younger but we weren’t as close to them as we were to Bob himself.
Our trips to Fort Erie to see them both while he and my sister Sharon ran his practice in Stevensville and later after he sold the practice were a regular part of our weekends. My sister and I have always been close and my wife and my sister are the very best of friends. They have hit the road together a number of times and I imagine they will again soon.
After Bob sold his practice, he transferred his love of photography, (which we shared), to painting and his output was very prolific. In both the houses in which he and my sister lived in Crescent Park he had painting studios to die for.
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The pic you see here is called Men With Hats and it is one of my favourites of his. It hangs in the entrance to my office and I look at it a lot.
One of the great strokes of good fortune in my life was not just to know Bob, but to watch him develop as a pure artist.
He was an explorer of painting styles and remained so for his entire artistic career. He exhibited locally and was very much a part of the local arts scene in the Niagara region.
Bob was also a voracious reader. We shared a love for contemporary spy writers and traded books for years.
He and my sister were a well matched couple. Both very intelligent and well read and both suited to small town life.
Bob’s illness lasted quite a while and both he and my sister knew that it would eventually prove to be terminal. So for the last few years, it was the thing we never really talked about together but it was never really any sort of elephant in the room either.
My best memories of Bob are just sitting around and shooting the shit in his back yard, dinners at Ming Teh down on the river, watching baseball games which he loved, and sitting in his studio with him, chatting while he painted.
All good memories of a splendid fellow. An artist. A healer. A husband. A father. And a real human being.
RIP my brother. You were loved and you will be missed.   jim

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Jim Murray

4 years ago #34

Thanks to everyone who offered their condolences. As a tribute to Bob, I'm going to, over the next while post some pics of his paintings, which I have always loved.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #33

A very beautiful tribute about Bob. Hugs and Prayers to you and your family Jim.

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #32

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Jim Murray. Wishing you all strength during this difficult time. Honoured to have been able to learn about your brother from your story. Beautiful tribute.
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I am just so darned sorry to learn of your brother's passing, Jim Murray. What a shame. And I understand that to you, he WAS a brother. He and you were lucky to have had each other, and I'm sorry for your family that's gone so soon.

Salma Rodriguez

4 years ago #29

My condolences for your loss, Jim Murray. Although I was never personally acquainted with Bob, I suspect you guys were very close siblings. My best wishes to you, and I hope good memories help with your recovery. Amen.

Graham🐝 Edwards

4 years ago #28

Sorry for your loss Jim Murray

Donald 🐝 Grandy PN

4 years ago #27

Sorry for your loss Jim Murray. Prayers for you and family.

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #26

I'm sorry you lost a brother and good friend. I'm sorry for your sister and family too. It sounds as though you have many wonderful memories to carry with you for a lifetime. I love the painting. Bob sounds like he was a good man. Sending good thoughts Jim Murray

Paul Walters

4 years ago #25

Jim Murray Sorry for your loss Jim . However sounds like he brought you a lot of joy and will be remembered !

Ian Weinberg

4 years ago #24

Condolences Jim Murray
Jim, my condolences to you and your family. A lovely tribute to a much-loved person.

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

4 years ago #22

Jim Murray My deep condolences to you for the demise of your brother-in-law. May the Almighty Lord give you and your sister and other family members patience upon this sudden loss.

Phil Friedman

4 years ago #21

Sorry, Jim, for your loss. My sincere sympathies to you and your family.

David B. Grinberg

4 years ago #20

Jim, I'm very sorry to hear such bad news. Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
I am so sorry to hear & he will be in our prayers here. Bill Stankiewicz

Fran 🐝 Brizzolis

4 years ago #18

I'm sorry apreciated Jim Murray. My most sincered condolences. RIP Bob Twidle.

Pedro 🐝 Casanova

4 years ago #17

My condolences friend. Sorry for that loss

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

4 years ago #16

My dear Jim Murray, my sincerest condolences to you and your family. It's been lucky to share part of your lives with such a great human being. All my love... ✨💫

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #15

A great tribute. Very sorry for your loss Jim Murray

Cyndi wilkins

4 years ago #14

It is a wonderful gift when someone leaves footprints on our hearts...My condolences to you and your family Jim Murray.

Jim Murray

4 years ago #13

#17
Thanks Sarah, and everybody for their sincere comments. Bob lived a great life and he was a really good guy.

Sarah Elkins

4 years ago #12

What I love about this post, Jim Murray, is the way you painted the picture of Bob and his life. It's not so much an obituary as it is an honorarium, bringing his life to your readers, and sharing his impact on you, your family, and your community. I hope that when it's my time, this is the style and sentiment that comes across when someone writes about me. A life well-lived, indeed. Lots of love to you and your family.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #11

Sorry for your loss, Jim. It's always sad to lose the people we love. I love that painting, too. The nice thing about well done family art is that it will live forever. Are you familiar with Shakespeare's Sonnet 18? "So long as men can breathe or eyes can see, so long lives this, and this gives life to thee." Shakespeare seemed to know intuitively that his artistic work would last forever and effectively render his lover (and himself) immortal. Your brother-in-law's art will keep him alive for as long as it exists. Enjoy it and keep him with you.

Neil Smith

4 years ago #10

Sorry for your loss Jim. Fine tribute.

Kevin Pashuk

4 years ago #9

What a great tribute. Sorry for your loss. It sounds like there will be a big hole.

don kerr

4 years ago #8

Jim Murray So very sorry to learn of your loss.

Pascal Derrien

4 years ago #7

Jim Murray I am very sorry for your loss, what a great artist I am in awe of Men With Hats it is truly impressive
Wonderful words, Jim Murray

Gert Scholtz

4 years ago #5

Jim Murray Condolences to you and your family during this difficult time Jim.

Laurent Boscherini

4 years ago #4

My sincere Condolences to you and all your loved ones, Jim Murray. - Ode to life .
What a lovely tribute Jim Murray. Obviously I never met him, but now I and others know him a little - who he was to himself and the important people in his life. May his memory and spirit live on in everyone whose life he touched.

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #2

Never an easy time. My condolences to you and your family.

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #1

Jim Murray, A great person deserves no less: RIP Your brother Bob.

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