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Insincerity vs. Authenticity

Insincerity vs. Authenticity


I really despise insincerity in people. I'd rather someone were honestly rude and completely dismissive of me than ingenuine with me.聽

We often hear people described in terms of their degree of authenticity. Being your authentic self is about accepting who you are and living without pretense. It's knowing and liking who you are and being someone who can freely let their light shine from within. It's about never feeling obligated to say something like , 鈥渓et's do lunch," to someone you'd never care to spend time with.聽

We've all met these people and maybe some of you have felt the need to say something insincere when you really felt the opposite. Please humor me and answer these questions.聽

Question #1:聽

a) How do you respond to insincere people?聽

b) Do you ignore them?聽

c) Do you call them out or challenge them in some way?

Question #2:聽

a) Would you ever invite someone to spend time with you when you have no real desire to be with them? 聽

b) What do you do when they take you up on your offer?


Ren茅e 馃悵 Cormier

1 year ago #14

Neil Smith

1 year ago #13

Please spare a thought for those utter cockwombles who possess odious personalities, are selfish, entitled and all-round obnoxious. 

The only hope of meaningful human interaction for these people is to hide their own personality and be as insincere as possible. 

Who the hell would ever vote for the 鈥榬eal鈥  Boris Johnson? The fake, cartoon version is the only chance he has. Other well known and not so well known people fall into the same bracket. 

Pity them but don't encourage them by wasting a perfectly good lunch hour on them. 

If BJ wanted to do lunch with me I would probably prefer to do something more enjoyable and constructive instead. Like stabbing myself in the testicles perhaps. Fortunately the need is unlikely to manifest itself. 

Ren茅e 馃悵 Cormier

1 year ago #11

Ken Boddie

1 year ago #10

Ren茅e 馃悵 Cormier

1 year ago #9

Like, Zacharias, I tend to keep insincere people at bay. It doesn't take long to figure out their intentions. I wouldn't extend an invitation to someone I don't want to spend time with because that would show insincerity on my part. 

Ren茅e 馃悵 Cormier

1 year ago #7

Pascal Derrien

1 year ago #6

In many cases I skip lunch :-)

Ren茅e 馃悵 Cormier

1 year ago #4

Ren茅e 馃悵 Cormier

1 year ago #3

Good article. To answer your questions, I tend to keep insincere people at bay, though I don't block them (keep your friend close, but your enemy closer, and all that). Sometimes I'd challenge them, more like nudge them, as I'm optimistic about the state of the human condition and how it manifests in them. After all, I wasn't always sincere myself, but I managed to change, so maybe they can too. I'd only invite people I respect (and who hopefully respect me too) for any kind of social event. Life is too short to dilute genuine human interactions with the phoniness that insincere people emit, IMO. As for insincere greetings and other linguistic constructs, I'm on the fence on that. It's more important to have a genuine feeling than what words you use to convey it. Cheersabout

Ken Boddie

1 year ago #1

Being a bit of a grammar 鈥榥ut鈥 (some might say worse), I must admit that I am more offended by the erroneous 鈥渄o lunch鈥 literal concept than the insincerity, Ren茅e. We might argue that, 鈥淗ave a nice day,鈥 is equally ridiculous and insincere.  Thankfully, we say neither here in Oz, unless we've just been watching reruns of Friends, Cheers, Becker, Seinfeld, or Big Bang Theory. 馃

Nevertheless, insincerity reigns supreme everywhere in every country, although many Aussies are traditionally more direct with their words than those in other countries.  I guess many of us, in so called polite society, just lack the directness of telling people we don't like to f*** off.

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