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The Art of Seeing Things Differently and The Power of Vujà dé


The Art of Seeing Things Differently and The Power of Vujà dé~

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Many moons ago, I was in a relationship with someone who in hindsight, clearly wasn’t right in the head, but I couldn’t see why I was unhappy. I later realized there were two important reasons for this. One reason is that nobody is ever 100% bad. The other reason is that when you are too close to a problem, you can’t clearly identify it.

The process of trying to reflect on the root of my misery, taught me how to “vujà dé” (step back and see things differently). Graham Edwards touched on this in a recent beBee post and I would like to take this a little further with some practical advice (based on my experience) about how to look at things differently.

Vujà dé is not a real word but is used to describe the opposite of déjà vu. Vujà dé comes to you like an epiphany and you wonder why you never realized something before when it was in front of you all along. If you can master the art of vujà dé, then you can solve any problem (business or personal), move yourself toward positive change, break through boundaries and even change the world.

“I’ve got to change the air in my head.”
Me

This is something I find myself saying whenever I am frustrated. I discovered that moving out of the place I am in allows me to change my perspective. There are many ways to change the air in your head, but these are my go to activities:

Read: I find that reading non-fiction books about business, psychology, sociology or even self-help books can help me change my perspective. Opening your mind to new ideas and new ways of thinking will help you change your perspective and basically air out your head.

Focus on positive thoughts: Possibility excites me so I try to look at my life in terms of finding new opportunities. By shifting my focus from the negative things in my life and allowing myself to think about what is right and good in my life, I experience an energy shift which ultimately allows me to change my perspective which is of course, essential to facilitate those vujà dé moments.

Get exercise: Run, walk, swim, lift weights, etc. Do whatever you can to get your blood pumping, change your focus and clear your mind. Regular physical activity done in solitude works best for me.

PowerPoint affirmations: Some may find this quirky, but I have a PowerPoint presentation that I put together which contains, among other things, affirmations and goals which I use as a way to direct my focus to productive activities. When I do this daily, I find my life and business go more smoothly than when I neglect it. It is like a filter that catches life’s bullshit and changes my perspective instantly.

Focus on solutions:


“There are no problems; only solutions.”
My former boss

I had a boss who used to say this all the time. It makes perfect sense. Why focus on problems when you can focus on solutions? Dr. Wayne Dyer was known for saying, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” This is very true. Things are only ever as bad as we think they are. It’s all about perspective. Tell yourself a different story, do something new and make a decision to behave differently so that your new perspective presents new solutions and opportunities.


Mastering vujà dé means making a concerted effort to open up your thinking so that you can flip your standard perspective and force a new point of view.”
Me again

Open your thinking: Opening your thinking also means having to consider that someone else may have a solution or perspective that you never thought of. Your ego is your enemy. Allow yourself to be wrong. Accept that you may not have all the answers and that your own solutions may be imperfect. There is tremendous value in bouncing ideas off of people who are positive and helpful by nature. Look for a happy contrarian. If you have no one to talk to, then allow yourself to ask and answer a lot of unusual questions. Don't ask your normal questions. Think differently.

Dare to be different: If you want to go in a new direction and see different results, then you must embrace a willingness to not be like everyone else and do what all others are doing. Be brave in the face of criticism and complaint. Have the courage to forge onward. In doing so you will find that vujà dé is a transforming force.

Do you want to change your life or your business results? Learn to vujà dé.


About me:

I am a former public relations professional, adult educator and published author. My life experiences have been rich and have led me to the work I am doing to bring success and fulfillment to people all over the world. 

I believe that nothing works well in life if we are not in vibrational harmony with our inner being. Self-destructive behaviours, self-sabotaging behaviours, anger, and control issues indicate that there is a disconnect between the outer self and the divine inner self. Once you heal that relationship, you will discover your career, your business, external relationships, your health, and overall wellness will improve dramatically. Please visit my website at www.reneecorimer.com for information about what I do and to reach me for support with your goals.

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Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #36

#43
Attitude is everything. No matter how you define success, love or anything else, your outlook on life will determine what you attract into your world. Sometimes seeing things differently means letting go of your old prejudices, values and assumptions.

John Prpich

4 years ago #35

You should make up a bunch of T shirts, it could be quite an interesting and catchy slogan. It took me the longest time in my life to come to terms with who I am and who I'm not. A lot of soul searching and a meeting with reality, or as some would say in North America, a come to Jesus meeting. You'll never be free until you can admit to your shortcomings and be discerning about the individuals that surround you. So many people speak in discouraging ways, you have to free yourself of that environment. That being said, you have to be careful not to go from one extreme to another, it's just as dangerous. There are so many conflicting messages in society today, you have to be able to filter what's being and not being said. People are still enamored with wealth and the need to be rich or wealthy. Yet, what I found when I had lots of money, it didn't make me any happier, just more comfortable. It's never been my goal to be wealthy, only to live comfortable and to be healthy. I think where we fail as a society is our lack of focus on the importance of relationships, family and friends. At the end of the day, it's those with the can do attitude that come up ahead.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #34

#40
Absolutely, Mohammed!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #33

#38
Thanks, Lisa. The term is not mine. I'm not sure who the pioneer is, but many have written about it.

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

4 years ago #32

Yep...thinking matters most. It doesn't take more efforts to aspire and dream high, but what it all requires is one's right, tactical thinking. Think for the good, look for action that's worth enough for prospective solutions, and forget about timid feelings that leave you indecisive. Indeed, with this simple precept, you can influence others.

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

4 years ago #31

Yep...thinking matters most. It doesn't take more efforts to aspire and dream high, but what it all requires is one's right, tactical thinking. Think for the good, look for action that's worth enough for prospective solutions, abd forget about timid feelings that leave you indecisive. Indeed, with this simple precept, you can influence others.

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #30

Ren\u00e9e Cormier, love how you came up with the term vujà dé. It is hard to smell the flowers through the forest, so taking a step back can really change your perspective and be an eye opener. It's also extremely hard to be objective of oneself and I love my friends and family because we are all able to be open with each other when it comes to mistakes we may have made, questions we have about choices we make, problems we are trying to solve... these are things that do take an open mind to listen and honest people who care enough to try and guide you. I value honesty. Great tips to focus on solutions!!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #29

Thanks for sharing this, @Max Carter.

#34
Yes, I speak some French Ren\u00e9e Cormier and you made me smile (sourir)

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #27

#29
Thanks, Ali. Hair, air... If you speak French it is all the same!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #26

#28
Thank you, Paul!

#31
+Wonderful and relieving comment Kevin Pashuk. You know this is an inspiring comment and I bit an idea of a new buzz is born.

Kevin Pashuk

4 years ago #24

#30
I'm not sure it's wrong Ali.. I was told that with men of a certain wisdom, their hair starts to grow inward from their scalps, creating the illusion of baldness, but in reality providing a comfortable place for the flurry of thoughts that go on inside their minds. At least that's what I tell myself.

I can't type as I meant changed the air and not the hair in my head.

Worthy of sharing buzz Ren\u00e9e Cormier and a beautifully-written buzz this is. BTW- I changed the hair in my head before writing this comment.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #21

Andrew Goldman, I think you might like this post.

Harvey Lloyd

4 years ago #20

#21
It is a little bit of a pet peeve when exploring new ideas, for me. I want to hear all perspectives. When folks begin defending a specific perspective i can get a little testy. I try and open up the dialogue to more but they are quite willing to slam that door. Usually, i give my pointed speech of, this is not a true/false test, but rather a multiple choice questionnaire. I hold out as long as i can for them to join, but sometimes it breaks down into my speech of leadership. I'm sorry, you have made a mistake in assuming this is a democracy, it is a dictatorship and we will be hearing all perspectives. I usually call the meeting before this speech comes out, but sometimes it just happens.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #19

Phil Friedman, I find you are very good at getting people to flip their perspective.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #18

#18
Thanks, Sushmita Thakare Jain! I appreciate the share as well.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #17

#15
Perhaps you stumbled across something by Bob Sutton. I got my inspiration for this post from Graham Edwards. Here's the link to his post on the subject: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@graham-edwards/vuja-de-voozha-day-the-beginning-of-a-wee-bit-of-an-obsession

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #16

#20
That's a great strategy, Harvey Lloyd. It's funny how some people can't accept the possibility that there may me a better solution.

Harvey Lloyd

4 years ago #15

With our team, i often try and get them to come up with multiple solutions to the problem. I find i have to give different perspectives in order for them to see different solutions. I may ask if you had a million dollars or if this was your brother or some question that would spark a different memory block in the brain to start from. I have always believed that multiple solutions exist, our perspective is what keeps us focused on one. Getting folks to step aside and view the problem from a different angle appears to be foreign. They feel they have abandoned their own focus or worst they felt their perspective was wrong. Changing perspectives surrounds an idea that through diversity we can choose from the best of all perspectives/solutions. We must be willing to explore though. In my adventure i have found exploration of solutions challenging and exciting. Managers have come and gone over the 30+ years and this was the hardest concept to introduce. My favorite response, Why would you seek additional perspectives when you already have the right answer? I learned to have fun with this response over the years. Thanks for a post that opens up the idea of diversity of perspectives as part of the leadership experience, Ren\u00e9e Cormier.

I love this Renee. I find solace through music and nature. Vujà dé is something I should more often.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #13

#13
Thanks for sharing, and for the comments. Sunsets are good, weather permitting. Lol.

David B. Grinberg

4 years ago #12

Great tips here, Renne. I like to find solace through nature and the outdoors -- this includes watching sunsets, one my weekly rituals weather permitting. I've also shared this on Twitter and in the "Inspiration" hive.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #11

#9
Yeah, how to you tell your buddy his wife's a beech? Sometimes you have to let people draw their own conclusions.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #10

#10
Funny you should mention that, Kevin Pashuk. I actually meant to include it. Good call. Thanks for sharing and let me know when you need a coffee buzz.

Kevin Pashuk

4 years ago #9

You forgot to add "Go have a coffee with a couple of Beezers!" to your list. We all need to step back on occasion and gain perspective. Great article Renée. Shared.

Randy Keho

4 years ago #8

I nearly lost an old friend because he couldn't see that his new wife's actions were discouraging his friends from stopping by to visit. It took him a long time to realize it, but when he did ,he scolded us for allowing it to happen. I all could say was "love is blind."

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #7

Thanks for the share, Graham Edwards!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #6

#6
Thanks, Graham! You inspired me, as usual. :)

Graham🐝 Edwards

4 years ago #5

Nice post Ren\u00e9e Cormier... I think we are on to something with this Vujà dé.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #4

#4
It sure is, Wayne. Thanks for sharing this post, btw. :)

Wayne Yoshida

4 years ago #3

Yes, the Ctrl-Alt-Delete for your head every once in a while is a good thing.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #2

Thank you for sharing this, Milos Djukic!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #1

#1
You'd better get writing, Sasa!

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