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The Best Life Coach You Will Ever Meet (No It's Not Me)

The Best Life Coach You Will Ever Meet (No It's Not Me)

The world we are living in today is changing constantly. Many of us are being pulled in several directions at the same time. Hardly any of us understand what’s real and what’s not anymore. There are so many exaggerations, alternative truths, absurd bullshit and outright lies working on us that it’s amazing that we are not all insane.

Every once in a while you just want to drive out to a secluded spot, climb to the top of a hill and scream your lungs out. And you know what, that will probably do you more good than all the self-help books in the library.

There is some indication now that some countries in the world have started crusading to clean up the Internet to prevent or at least limit all the exaggerations, alternative truths, absurd bullshit and outright lies, and try and get back to some sense of what’s real.

I’m not sure how that actually gets achieved, but greater minds than mine are working on it and hopefully they will figure something out.

I have also noticed that some of the people in the coaching industry are now starting to encourage people to develop techniques for getting and staying in touch with their true feelings. On the surface that sounds like a lot of new age hooey, but if you dig a little deeper into that idea, you might find that there is a lot of merit to it.

The biggest challenge people face these days is where to put their faith. For years the general consensus has been that you can put your faith in a government or a religion or a wife or a husband or a trusted friend. And a lot of people still do.

But here’s a big idea for you. How about putting your faith in yourself?

I mean who knows you better? And who controls your actions and beliefs. It’s not a government, friend, spouse or guru, religious or secular. It your own sense of what is right and what is wrong. Of what feels real and what feels fabricated.

Too often, and maybe because it’s easier, we tend to put our faith in some person or entity, and more often than not, we come to a tipping point where we start to question that very act. And what do you know, it all comes back around to you.

Everybody, regardless of where their faith has been, has a sense of right and wrong. They can tell black from white. And they can identify all the colours in between. They know what they want, and usually, if they want it bad enough, they can figure out a way to get it. People do this in small ways every day, and because it’s almost second nature, they don’t really think about how much they use their own judgement to determine certain small things, everyday things.

But we do. And because we do, we know how. And if we know how then why can’t we just expand our intuitive thinking to include bigger things? 
The answer is that we can. The reality is that in order to do that successfully you have to be willing to wade through an ocean of exaggerations, alternative truths, absurd bullshit and outright lies and reject it all. Where you will then end up is at your truth.

And once you’re there, and you make up your mind to stay there, you’ll discover that the big decisions in your life are just as easy to make as the little ones were.

I know this sounds a bit like abstract advice. But let me tell you a story about me.

Two years ago, I had an e-coli infection that lodged in my spine. I had to have the infection surgically removed, and in the process of stabilizing my spine, I lost the connection from my brain to my legs that controlled my balance.

When I got home after four months in the hospital, I was basically bed-ridden. And in the first few days of being home, I did a lot of thinking about how I was going to live the rest of my life. And I decided that I would do everything in my power to become as whole a person as I could. This meant, learning to stand, learning to take steps, learning to use a walker and build my stamina, then learning to swim again (I swam 100 lengths a day before I got sick).
This was the hardest work I have ever had to do, but I visualized and did the work. And the only thing powering me was my belief that I could do it.

Today, between the walker and the cane, I spend at least an hour a day walking. And last summer I got up to 30 lengths in my pool. It’s still hard work, but I have come to love it because I was told that not much of this would be possible. But I believed something else. And I used that belief to power my actions.

So when I tell you all this stuff about how you can control everything in your life, just by deciding that’s how it will be, I know what I am talking about because I’m doing it.

I’m not selling anything here. I’m not a coach or a guru. I’m a writer and an advertising guy. But if this makes sense to you, think more about it.

It’s not gonna make sense for everyone. But if it does make sense to you, just really focus hard on who’s really in charge of things in your life and start listening to that person a whole lot more. I believe you’ll find that the best coach you’ll ever meet is yourself.

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Comments

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #12

Jim Murray

1 year ago #11

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #10

💜😇@Jim Murray 

A truth .. 

“As a man thinks in his heart .. so he is.”

A response of courage & resolve .. to what could have crushed you 

"belief that I could do it" 

Then the willingness .. the discipline .. the determination and the work to do it. 

 

Please know you are often my prayers 

Jim Murray

1 year ago #9

Jim Murray

1 year ago #8

Jim Murray

1 year ago #7

Alan Culler

1 year ago #6

Congratulations on your determined and continuing recovery, Jim. Inspiring! And proof that vision and intention are powerful.

And thanks for the good advice about being one's own coach. We all need to trust ourselves more.

Some years ago I attended a workshop and was introduced to a guided meditation called the Journey to Your Perfect Teacher. Without going into the whole thing here, we were encouraged to start with a question, and then were guided to visualize a long journey to see our perfect teacher. Afterwards we talked about our journeys and some went to church or back to school. Some followed an arduaous mountain path to a cave.

At the end of the journey we opened our eyes to a video camera on top of a monitor and gave advice to ourselves. Sounds hokey as heck, but I answered my question. I still visualize te journey occasionally,  opening my eyes to a mirror.

Keep doing the work - it's working!

Jim Murray

2 years ago #5

#4 Thanks Ken. It really is mind over a lot of things. Which more people realized that.

Ken Boddie

2 years ago #4

It appears we are on parallel paths, Jim. For a while now I've been practicing one of the five ancient forms of Traditional Chinese Medicine called Qigong, a preventive and self healing exercise routine. “Where the mind goes, Qi [or energy] flows.”

I find the combination of meditation and repetitive exercise and breathing very therapeutic. 

There’s definitely much to be said about ‘mind over matter’.

This, of course, brings me to the story of the WW2 concentration camp commandant, who introduces his charges to the concept of ‘mind over matter’ by insisting that, “We don’t mind and you don’t matter.”  ☹️

Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris

2 years ago #3

Very inspiring. Thank you, Jim. And so it will go…

Jim Murray

2 years ago #2

#1 Thanks Jerry. And so it went.

Jerry Fletcher

2 years ago #1

Jim, makes sense. And so it goes.

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