Renée 🐝 Cormier

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The Joy of Joy

The Joy of Joy

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I don't think there is a more joyful creature on this earth than my dog when he is carrying a stick. I get a real kick out of experiencing his exuberance. It reminds me of how contagious our emotions are and how sensitive we can be to the energy that is around us. Knowing this, I fail to fully understand how anyone can allow themselves to be surrounded by miserable people, or how they can willingly keep themselves stuck in a negative headspace. It’s not that I don’t ever feel down, but I have learned that turning my attention toward better feeling thoughts causes an energy shift in your whole life that makes every day that much better.

Here are some interesting observations I have had about misery and miserable people:

I have never met a journalist who wasn’t a depressed and miserable human being.

* People who obsess over the news and all of the problems in the world often struggle with mental health issues.

Only complainers enjoy the company of complainers.

* Depressed people are depressing to be around. They will piss on your fire every time.

People who have a lot of rotten shit happen to them time and time again are toxic with negativity, even when it’s a good day.

People who love drama, love to latch onto other people’s problems and perpetuate negative feelings such as hopelessness and anger in their victims.

People who seek pleasure in misery can’t get enough of it. They will cause it for both themselves and others, prolonging the experience as much as possible.

Focussing on your past misery will never make your past or your present feel good. Ugly is always ugly.

* 20% of miserable people want to stay that way. The other 80% could be taught to think differently. The brain is malleable and you can build new neuropathways to change your thought habits.

It's so much better to keep a positive mindset.

I like working with people who want to grow and be better. I like being around people who can see the positive before the negative. I like knowing that the choice to be happy is as easy as deciding to focus on the things in my life that bring me some degree of joy. Some days, it’s a simple as watching my dog carry a stick when we go for a walk.

Guard your joy in this life. If you do nothing else, do that for yourself. Push away people who are perpetually miserable. Push away people who want to remind you of your shortcomings or unfortunate circumstances. Be the light in someone’s day, instead. Give a word of kindness to a stranger or anyone for that matter. Help an old lady cross the street. Pick up some litter. Pay for a stranger’s purchase at a coffee shop. Take time to remember happy events in your life, whether it was a joke or a conversation or a big event like childbirth. Just find a place to go in your mind that feels good. Meditate at least once a day for 15 minutes. Count your blessings before you sleep. Go over all the fun moments in your day or week. Go to sleep feeling happy and wake up feeling happy. Appreciate the weather. Appreciate having a job, a spouse, children, pets, a roof over your head… appreciate what you have. Appreciation heals your mind, body and soul. I said it before and I’ll say it again. Guard your joy.

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Renée 🐝 Cormier

3 years ago #14

Gracias! Thank you, my friend.

Jerry Fletcher

3 years ago #13

Renee, Honest advice delivered from a positive perspective. Unfortunately those of a pragmatic viewpoint want a greater range to wiggle in. Keep on preachin' Just remember that not everyone will heed the calling. And so it goes.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

3 years ago #12

Haha! You're a genius Ken Boddie!

John Rylance

3 years ago #11

Back in the days when you could only tell how much fuel you had in the tank was to use a dipstick. Garage owners would say half empty. If they said half full then the motorist was unlikely to fill up.  Incidentally in the Comedy "Only fools and horses" Del Boy often called Roders a dipstick. 

Ken Boddie

3 years ago #10

Well, Renée, I guess it all boils down to the old glass half full vs glass half empty attitude. As an engineer, I’d empty the contents into a much smaller glass, then everybody’s happy. 🤗

Bill Stankiewicz

3 years ago #8

Great job here congratulations 🎊

Renée 🐝 Cormier

3 years ago #7

Thank you for sharing my buzz, Javier \ud83d\udc1d C\u00e1mara Rica!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

3 years ago #6

#5 Certainly we need to have discomfort in our lives. It serves us to acknowledge it long enough to identify new desires. I still contend that dwelling on misery and all the rotten things people said and did will do you more harm than good. Enjoy your day, gentlemen!

Pascal Derrien

3 years ago #5

What I meant is that a problem is a problem whether you are optimistic or not. I have seen many so called optimists on the extreme end burying their head in the sand expecting it to go away , the problem with optimism in our day and age is that its often a pose nothing more and sometimes coming from a section of the population that may not have been really tested. I agree with John Rylance I think realism is probably more relevant and I honestly think we all navigate thru those two poles. I think there is value in anything pessimism, doubt, introspection they are just part of the process. Its OK to say I am not OK

John Rylance

3 years ago #4

Pessimists need to work how to bring about change in the things that they are pessimistic about, while optimists need to build on positive outlook, and leave the middle ground to us who like to vary between being pessimistic and optimistic as the mood takes us.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

3 years ago #3

Do explain what you mean, my friend. I'm not talking about living in denial of your problems and avoiding them completely. This is more about remaining optimistic about finding solutions and yes, maybe living with your head up your ass a bit, because it allows you to allow the good to flow toward you. Everything is energetic. Whatever you put out into the world will come back to you. Dwelling on problems and feeling victimized by life solves nothing. Focusing on solutions and remaining optimistic that things will work out well for you means you'll turn your ship around and not get caught up in a cesspool of misery.

Pascal Derrien

3 years ago #2

Yes and no I would say agree on moving on but not so sure about serial optimists in denial either 🤔

Randall Burns

3 years ago #1

HaHa! Great Post and message Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier

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