Renée 🐝 Cormier

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The Road to Mediocrity Was Paved by Settlers


The Road to Mediocrity Was Paved by Settlers

I have a personal quality that can be irritating to some people, and even though it isn’t always practical to be this kind of person, I still can’t see why I should be different. I know what is expected of me, but I want other things for myself. I cannot be like everyone else. Do you know what I am talking about? I’m talking about settling.

I’ve got this thing in me that is extremely resistant to settling for less than what I want. All over the internet, you see blogs, memes, videos and books about the importance of not settling, but few have ever told me, “Renée, don’t settle!” Most people will offer well meaning yet unsolicited advice telling me that I should do what everybody else does. Suck it up, work for less than you are worth, follow the crowd, take what you can get. I hate that, and I could never give that advice to anyone.

It saddens me to see people taking the safe route and sacrificing their deepest desires. It upsets me when parents set the bar low for their kids and encourage them to not challenge themselves and settle for what’s easy and safe. It breaks my heart when I see married couples not supporting each other’s dreams. That’s no way to live, in my opinion. A life unfulfilled is hardly a life. I’d rather aim high and miss than never aim for anything and wonder what could have been.

Real change happens when you feel genuinely inspired, turned on by possibility and unwilling to settle for anything less. - Debbie Ford

I have always been a cheerleader for other people’s goals. I like being able to give others the encouragement they need to do the things they love. I like helping others succeed. It is in serving others that I gain the most satisfaction. What can I do for you? How can I help you be the best you can be? I guess that’s why I have always felt this pull to be a coach. People who don’t want to settle can’t be surrounded by settlers and expect to become successful. It’s not impossible, but it’s tough. Really tough. I know firsthand.

Coaching doesn’t have to be all that expensive or time consuming. You can be coached in a group or individually, over the phone, over Skype, or in person. Using a coach as an accountability partner is well worth your while. Coaching isn't a service reserved for wieners, either. I can tell you that most successful people have hired a coach at least once in their lives. In fact, even coaches have coaches! A coach helps you gain clarity, keeps you focused on your goals and can act as both a sounding board and a guide. Coaches help you find the solutions that are best for you. They don’t tell you what to do, and they are not psychotherapists trying to bend you straight. They simply help you discover ways to get past barriers to success. They provide insight that helps transform your thinking so that you achieve everything you have ever wanted. Anyone inclined to settle for less in life could never give you that.

Why you should never settle:

Settling robs you of your dreams.

Settling lowers your self-esteem.

Settling only makes other people happy.

Settling feels like failure.

Settling never leads to success.

Settling for crumbs will keep you hungry.

Settling is never rewarding.

Settling is more painful than the road to success.

Settling is always a mistake.

Settling makes you bitter.

Settling is accepting a life of mediocrity.

Settling is quitting in disguise.


My Favourite Coaching Tool:

Different coaches do different things to bring their clients success. I use auto-suggestion and neuro-linguistic programming techniques in my coaching sessions to help my clients move toward their goals. It works beautifully. It helps them focus and clearly envision their dreams and how they are going to achieve them. They learn to overcome obstacles before they surface and end up saving themselves a lot of time on the road to success.

I believe we were meant to expand our horizons and discover our greatest capabilities. You have what it takes to successfully live your dreams. We all do, so avoid taking advice from people who settle. Seek out the company of people who understand your need to do more, be more, and have more. Dare to live life on your own terms because the road to mediocrity was paved by settlers.


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 Renée Cormier is a certified coach and facilitator on a mission to show people how changing their thinking changes their lives. Contact Renée to learn how to quickly move forward and achieve growth in business and all other areas of life. Renée happily shares her business and personal development expertise through a variety of training and coaching programs that create unsurpassed value for her clientele.

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Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

2 years ago #5

#4
I'll pass on the opportunity to become a curmudgeon. Who could ever be better at it than you? LOL. As for the Serenity Prayer, I'd rather not have to accept any bull shit in my life and wish to be granted the wisdom to know where to go to get what I need. Thanks for your comment. :)

Phil Friedman

Phil Friedman

2 years ago #4

Thank you for this, Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier. I am so weary of the Reinhold Niebuhr Fan Club and their fucking Serenity Prayer -- which strikes me as a common excuse to sell out (both others and oneself). I say never accept what is not right or less than you want. Instead, kick and shout and struggle. Just don't allow that struggle to overshadow and sour the rest of your life. For even if you ultimately fail to achieve what you set out to accomplish, you'll at least have your self-esteem intact. You'll also be able to say "I did it my way..." and maybe, just maybe reach curmudgeon status. Cheers!

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

2 years ago #3

Renee, I agree. Never settle. People die just a little each time they do. And so it goes.

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

2 years ago #2

True I would say aspiration is one thing execution another sometimes people do what they can not always what they want context prevails very often especially in a non westernized narrative 🤔

Graham🐝 Edwards

Graham🐝 Edwards

2 years ago #1

Be the best we can be... nice buzz Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier