The Two Word Key To A Long, Successful Marriage & Maybe Even A Better World

The Method

The first part of the method is self-examination. You have to ask yourself what you have here and if it’s something worth holding onto.
A lot of times, men decide that it’s not, which is really why you have this astronomically high divorce rate in our society.
If you decide it’s not worth it, then, well, your work is done. You just leave and be prepared to give up half your shit forever, see your kids every other weekend and pretty much live like a college student for the rest of your life.
If you decide that it is worth it…that you have true love, and that you take your wedding vows quite literally, especially the till death do us part part, the next step in the method is crucial.
You now have to accept the fact that you must spend the rest of your life uttering a basic two-word phrase: “Yes Dear”.
There are variations on Yes Dear that are also acceptable.
The more casual “OK, Honey”, The hipster-like “Sure Thing, Babe” and the more suave and debonaire “Of Course, Darling”.
If you are one of those men who feel emasculated by constantly deferring to your wife in matters of importance, then you may very well be simply a divorcee waiting to happen.

There Is An Upside

In my marriage, I will be the first to admit that my wife is a lot smarter than me when it comes to important decisions, especially those involving substantial sums of money.
And you know what? Deferring to her on a lot of this really takes the pressure off me. I listen to the thing she wants to do. She explains that we can afford it. She informs me that it will be a good thing to do. And she wraps it all by telling me how happy I will be when it’s done…or the variation, which is how relieved I will be that I don’t actually have to do it myself.
Since one of my my principal obsessions in life is to hire people to do the stuff I don’t want to do, which leaves me more time to do my job and write other stuff, it’s become, over the years, a win-win for me.

Acceptance Is The Key

A marriage is like an elephant with insomnia…it flips over from one side to the other and makes a terrible thud when it does that.
Very often, the cause of the insomnia is the man’s resistance to accepting what is, in fact, an inevitability. That women rule the marriage. They do this because it really is something that men are hopeless at doing.
But it’s all in your attitude. The way I look at it is if my wife his happy taking on all that responsibility, so be it. Trying to wrestle it away from her will only piss her off, and nothing good comes from living with a pissed off woman.

Women Should Definitely Run The World
Me

With very few exceptions, the men who run the world are all, to one degree or another, crazy.
This is because they lack a lot of the qualities that women have that make their marriages work. They lack patience. They lack persistence. They lack the ability to listen to all sides of an issue before deciding on a course of action. They lack the ability to find common ground and build relationships from that. They are, in fact, hopeless.
I have a number of very strong women in my immediate family. And you know what? The stronger the better.
It really does take the burden of family leadership off me as the oldest and distributes it more equally across a network of women who know how to get things done, take care of their family and leave their husbands plenty of time to do what they do best and enjoy the most.

Yes Dear...Memorize & Repeat

If you think about it, those could be the two most important words in the world.
All men should memorize these words and learn exactly when to use them. If you want to make the world a better place, spread this advice around. Because the more women rule, the better life becomes for all of us.

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