Thinking and the Mind That Interferes

People get super crazy ideas in their heads. Like the character on the road that mistakes your left turn for some sort of personal slight and then attempts to cut you off for spite. Then there’s the relative who neglected to speak to you at your niece’s wedding and you are now convinced is angry with you for some mysterious reason that even you don’t know. What about the neighbour who gloriously decorates her back yard with old tires and empty flower pots? There you are convinced that she’s trying to piss you off and force you to sell your house. Or the co-worker who said something offensive in a meeting and has you convinced that you are being undermined at work. Oh, the fears and the paranoia we come up with when we try to figure out what people really think, yet somehow many of us believe we actually have insight into a person’s thoughts. Believe me when I tell you that we really don’t. Not at all! We only think we do and therein lies the problem.

The human brain is a fascinating yet often inept organ that loves to do its work.

Our brain thrives on stimulation. If we stop moving, the brain slows and even ceases operation in those areas. If we move differently, the brain builds new neuropathways to accommodate our new needs. Just ask Gary Sharpe how his brain has changed since his diagnosis of Parkinson ’s disease. If you stop speaking a language you know, you will forget it. Once you find yourself in the environment that necessitates your using it again, your brain reawakens and reactivates the parts required to process that language. It is a truly amazing organ that way.

The human brain also likes to entertain itself by activating our imagination. We use it to think creatively, design things, write books, and create music. Thanks to the brain, we can reflect on our behaviour, create moral codes, follow rules, and make assumptions about the world around us. Sometimes the last part gets us into trouble. People often assume things, and even though we are told we shouldn’t, it is somehow what we do. We are wired to wonder and because we wonder we can create amazing things and discover new things, but in spite of it all, we can still never definitively know what goes on inside someone’s head!

For those who are inclined to make assumptions about the motivations and actions of others, know this.

Our perceptions about why people do what they do, i.e., our version of reality, is wholly influenced by our relationship with ourselves.

How you feel about yourself directly affects your interaction with the world around you. At the centre of it all is your degree of self-respect. If you cannot love and respect who you are, you will not be able to have a healthy relationship with anyone at all! So how do you know if your internal relationship is off kilter? Any one of these is an indication that you’ve got some work to do:

· You worry about what other people think of you

· You constantly try to please people

· You anger easily

· You are always surrounded by drama

· You create a lot of drama in your life

· You think people have ulterior motives or are plotting against you

· You drink excessively

· You use drugs to ease your emotional pain

· You let people walk all over you

· You worry about being taken advantage of

· You feel like you are hiding the real you behind a mask

· You put yourself down

· You feel inept

· You are plagued with feelings of guilt or shame

· You manipulate others

· You put other people down

· You accuse other people of doing things to harm you

· You are easily offended

I am sure I could list more, but if you really want to measure the health of your internal relationship, all you really need to do is ask yourself how you feel about who you are. Do you love your own soul? If you could hold it in your hands would you kiss it like a new born baby? Do you realize that the mistakes you made in life do not define you? Your soul is who you really are and it is perfect just like a new born baby is pure and perfect. 

Who we are on the day we are born is who we really are. What’s not to love? 

It is the things that happen to us after we are born that take us farther and farther away from who we really are. We forget that we are actually a form of perfection and we listen to the lies people tell us about ourselves, but those lies were told to us by people who also lost their connection with their inner being (soul). Forgive your parents, friends, relatives and whoever else lied to you and hurt you. Forgive all those who tried to define you. They didn’t really know.

Don't let your mind interfere with your happiness. It is not really important for us to know or to understand what other people think. We mistakenly believe we need to know this, but we really don’t. What is important is that you genuinely think well of yourself. Speak your real truth. The truth that you are pure and good at your core. Love that part of yourself and forgive yourself for making mistakes and being unkind to yourself. If you can master that, you will find that your relationships with all people improve. You will no longer have to fight with people, or be offended by others. You will no longer care about who likes you or why people do things or what they are thinking. You will not have to embarrass yourself by wrongfully accusing people of things they didn’t do. None of it will matter to you at all. We are all wounded in some way. Get over it because your thoughts are the only thoughts that really affect you.

About me:

I am a former public relations professional, adult educator and published author. My life experiences have been rich and have led me to the work I am doing to bring success and fulfillment to people all over the world. 

I believe that nothing works well in life if we are not in vibrational harmony with our inner being. Self-destructive behaviours, self-sabotaging behaviours, anger, and control issues indicate that there is a disconnect between the outer self and the divine inner self. Once you heal that relationship, you will discover your career, your business, external relationships, your health, and overall wellness will improve dramatically. Please visit my website at www.reneecorimer.com for information about what I do and to reach me for support with your goals.

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