Royce Shook

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Let’s confront it head-on; retirement is a major life transformation, like going off to university, getting a partner for the first time, or going back to living without children in your home. Retirement may take a little time to get used to; it took me eight years. Create a plan, but don't worry if the plan will not be as you imagined. Based on my life experience and my experience in talking to others here are some suggestions for a steady transformation and a glorious retirement:

· Required duties kill spirit notwithstanding age. Don’t agonize about what you believe you should be doing or what others think you should be doing when you retire.  This is about you. It’s your time to do what you want.

· Generate a daily plan. It may sound like a fabulous scheme to throw away your alarm clock and avoid any new responsibilities. A sudden lack of structure is and can be unsettling for many of us.  I stopped getting up at 6:30 over the first year of my retirement and now I get up closer to 8:30 but that was after 13 years of retirement.  We all need a reason to get up in the morning, so I recommend that you plan to be up by a certain time and have some activities scheduled for specific days each week.

· Rekindle old friendships. If you can try and develop new friends hopefully in different age groups. I love to read and since I retired I have read hundreds of new books, and I love to putter around my house, I find it comfortable. At the same time, I volunteer, go out with my friends on a weekly basis because I know these activities dare more beneficial to my mental health. It is not easy making new friends when you retire, but one of the easiest ways to make new friends is through new activities such as sports, seminars, cooking classes, travel, hiking clubs, poker night, book clubs, yoga, wine tasting, etc.

· Get professional help. It took me eight or so years to get used to retirement because I retired without a plan. I was, however, very lucky because I had friends I could talk to about goals and what to do with retirement. Some people may need professional help with this if so, I recommend that you get the help before retirement not after.  The folks who sit down and discuss/plan their post-retirement goals are the ones who typically have a more satisfied, fulfilling retirement.  This can especially be beneficial for married couples and can/should be done before you retire to get on the same page about expectations and concerns. Sometimes people who have retired without a plan may experience some of the following signs and symptoms, If you do experience some of these on a daily basis or for more than two weeks, you may be suffering from depression:

· Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood

· Feelings of hopelessness, or pessimism

· Irritability

· Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness

· Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities

· Decreased energy or fatigue

· Moving or talking more slowly

· Feeling restless or having trouble sitting still

· Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions

· Difficulty sleeping, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping

· Appetite and/or weight changes

· Thoughts of death or suicide, or suicide attempts

· Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems without a clear physical cause and/or that do not ease even with treatment.

Not everyone who is depressed experiences every symptom. Some people experience only a few symptoms while others may experience many. That is why it is important to not self diagnose and talk to your doctor.

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Royce Shook

2 years ago #11

Good to hear from you Terry, you are correct Grandchildren remind us every day of the joy of life. I am glad you have yours close, my only grandchild is in Australia, but we have three adopted grandchildren down the road to make up for not being near him Love them all.
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2 years ago #10

Good advice for before and after retirement thank you Royce . The best therapy I've found for boredom is a daytrip with 3 or 4 grandchildren . If you listen to them talk they live in a different world than us. I heard things like how far is it to the moon , can I drive a go-kart (last time she was not tall enough this time she was) , can I get a stuffed cookie ice cream ( she did) are there space people in area 51 can we go and see ( not today). Children can remind us of how joyful life should be especially in retirement.

Royce Shook

2 years ago #9

It is interesting that self-worth and esteem depend on what we do for a living. I have friends who "used to be important people" in their jobs and some, unfortunately, have not yet recovered from no longer being who they thought they were and are still struggling to find out who they really are. For all those youngsters out there David Bowie sang or referenced Major Tom in his songs "Space Oddity", "Ashes to Ashes", "Hallo Spaceboy", "New Killer Star" and "Blackstar". aand Ken, you are correct he was a junkie but he was a spaced-out one.

Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris

2 years ago #8

Very useful advice! Although I'm not ready to retire yet, it's good to think about these things before the time comes so that when it happens I am ready :-) It's amazing how much of our self-worth and self-esteem depends on what we do for a living, which is probably why upon stopping work, it's easy to fall into this psychological state of uselessness. Hopefully, this won't be the case for any of us, as long as we have a plan and make the most of this wonderful time of our lives...

Ken Boddie

2 years ago #7

#3
While I was mooning around up there, John, working through my list of things not to do, I obtained confirmation from Ground Control that the Tom dude was definitely a junky, but, while I admit to being a Space Oddity, the closest I ever get to psychedelic experiences is conversing with Praveen Raj Gullepalli 🤣😂🤣
Cool buzz

John Rylance

2 years ago #5

Sound advice Royce. The most mportant thing is to prepare financially for retirement. Many people have I want it and I want it now outlook, rather than what might I need later.

John Rylance

2 years ago #4

My comment was a reply to Ken's

John Rylance

2 years ago #3

Bearing in mind your recent picture in a space suit, perhaps your employers are taking note of this from David Bowie's Ashes to Ashes. My mother said to get things done You'd better not mess with Major Tom

Lyon Brave

2 years ago #2

Enjoy your time

Ken Boddie

2 years ago #1

I can’t retire yet, Royce, cause the boss might find out that I really am dispensable. Besides, I’m so busy doing nothing all day, and would hate to have to find lots of new things not to do. 😟

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