Renée 🐝 Cormier

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When were the best days of your life?

When were the best days of your life?

Recently, I have been thinking about the happiest days of my life. I haven’t had a miserable life, and I certainly have lots to be grateful for, but it occurred to me that the happiest days of my life were relatively short lived. I remember in high school, our English teacher telling us, “These are the best days of your life.” When he said that, I immediately thought that if that were the case, then I certainly didn’t have much to look forward to. High school was lonely and miserable for me. University was even worse. I was especially lonely, then.

The happiest days of my life were when I was in my early to mid-thirties, newly divorced and entering a new phase of my life. Just me and my three little children; no extended family nearby and in a position where I had to make a whole new set of friends. I realize now that it was the only time I ever lived my life entirely on my own terms. I didn’t feel obligated to do what was expected of me. I set my own expectations, which were high enough on their own. I called all my own shots and nobody had to be convinced to join me on any of my adventures. My kids came along, because that’s what kids do, and every day I spent with them was filled with unconditional and reciprocal love. Just me and my three.

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So here I go again, twenty years later, almost to the day, about to embark on a new adventure, living life on my own terms, sans husband, sans small children. I’m 53. It’s a different stage of life. I feel excited and empowered but a little bit nervous.

I seem to marry men who don’t actually like who I am. Initially, they are drawn to my strength and then they resent it and spend the rest of their lives trying to weaken me. Every comment on my personality, every passive aggressive action and every outwardly aggressive action are all attempts to take a swipe at the armour. The dents and scratches make them feel stronger, I suppose.

But, here’s the thing. I like who I am. In fact, I really like who I am. I know exactly who I am and what my limitations are, and I still really like who I am. The truth is, I am a damn good woman. So off I go to try some new things, resolving to continue to be the best I can be, and from here on in, I will live life on my own terms.

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Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #19

#21
Thanks for the support, Sister. These days I need it more than ever! xox

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #18

#20
LOL! That's what all the 60 something year olds keep telling me!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #17

#19
That's very nice of you to say, Donald \ud83d\udc1d Grandy. Thank you!

Donald 🐝 Grandy PN

Donald 🐝 Grandy PN

4 years ago #16

Great article Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier. You are a role model for being authentic and standing for what you truly believe in.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #15

#16
Thanks, and thanks also for sharing!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #14

#15
#16 Thank you both!

Claire L Cardwell

Claire L Cardwell

4 years ago #13

I also never got that at school Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier - I am far happier now than I was then. Great article. Have an awesome day!

Graham🐝 Edwards

Graham🐝 Edwards

4 years ago #12

Very inspirational Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier... change does bring growth! Thank you for sharing.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #11

Thanks for sharing this, Claire L \ud83d\udc1d Cardwell!

Ken Boddie

Ken Boddie

4 years ago #10

I too, Renée, could never understand that all too forgettable quote about our school days. Some days gone by were good, but as we get older we must get bolder. The best is yet to come and all the more fun comes in the preparation, as the snowball we're rolling gets bigger and bigger. When people who know my photography interests ask me if I have a favourite picture, I always tell them, without a word of a lie, "the next one".

Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez

Live and enjoy it Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier

David B. Grinberg

David B. Grinberg

4 years ago #8

I really like that last quote, Renee. I forgot who said it, but there's a quoteIa like that notes something to the effect of: the best days of your life are the ones still ahead of you. Kudos on another excellent read!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #7

Thanks, Franci, and thank you for sharing!

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

This may be a worn our comment. especially to a woman with class such as yourself but - you go girl! Good for you for liking yourself and knowing you can be the best you can be.

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #5

Thanks for the share, Milos Djukic!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #4

#4
Thanks for encouragement, Sister!

Helena Jansen van Vuuren

Helena Jansen van Vuuren

4 years ago #3

Well done you....don't let anyone change you....I only had one child and no family here in the UK...but it was good....meh....you quickly learn it is easier to just say no and live to your own beat...am in my 60's now and it is a very different kind of good....keep going!

Renée 🐝 Cormier

Renée 🐝 Cormier

4 years ago #2

#1
Thank you, Harvey. There is a huge payoff for being with a strong woman. They are usually willing to take on a lot of responsibility, they get things done and in times of crisis, while everyone else is running around like their hair is on fire, strong women have it all under control. The downside, of course, is that if you are a weak or insecure man, you will resent them for it.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

4 years ago #1

I raised two very strong daughters. They are type A pragmatic decision makers. Never really gave thought to them getting married, just wanted them to claim their piece of the dream if you will. I remember each son-in-law asking for their hand. I warned them, no literally warned them, they are tough type A personalities and if you think that you will work through ego on them, you will have a challenge. If you choose to make it physical they will be the least of your worries, i like jail food. It wasn't long before the change they thought they would exact came down to them changing. One of them had done something and asked, did she want him to sleep on the sofa? She said i am at whether sleeping in the house. Don't be presumptuous. They are both happily married, and yes he slept on the sofa. Good luck with your new adventure. Keep in mind on new adventures it's difficult to determine the difference between fear and excitement.

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