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"Don't be bold..."

"Don't be bold..."

I was with some long time friends and telling a colourful story when someone happened to infer what I was talking about was "bold". To that someone else offered up a detail from my past that I had forgotten, "Remember when your mom used to say, 'Graham don't be bold'".


a4e3e438.jpgIt brought a laugh to be sure, and for a moment an adult's reflection on his youth — an adult interpretation of a child's interpretation of something said so long ago.
bold [bōld] ADJECTIVE: (of a person,  action, or idea) showing an ability to take risks; confident and courageous.


I could not help but wonder how being told not to be "confident and courageous" had impacted me — a request to squash these virtuous qualities must have had some sort of impact. Why would a parent tell a child not to put these tools in his tool bag? What was my mother thinking? As I considered the shackles that had been thrust upon me so long ago I came across this... Ná bí dána! 

It's Gaelic for "Don't be bold/naughty!"


naugh·ty [ˈnôdē] ADJECTIVE: (especially of children) disobedient; badly behaved.

It now seemed to make much more sense now because of my mother's Scottish roots and, as an adult, I could easily interpret some of my childhood actions as "naughty" — my loving mother's virtue was still very much intact. Ultimately this short trip down memory lane offered a glimpse into meaty topics such as the impact of words, the impact of words on children, how communication is precarious at the best of times, and how it's better to be "bold" rather than "naughty". It also had me consider another word —


reck·less [ˈrekləs] ADJECTIVE: (of a person or their actions) without thinking or caring about the consequences of an action.


I suppose it may have been more constructive if my mother had said, "Be bold, try not to be naughty, and definitely don't be reckless". If only I had a time machine.

Rest in peace Mary Margaret Edwards.

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Graham🐝 Edwards

5 years ago #11

#7
It's all about the subtleties it seems. Thanks for the comment Claire L Cardwell

Graham🐝 Edwards

5 years ago #10

#6
This is true Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier... there is a time and place for many, many things.— but not everything.

Graham🐝 Edwards

5 years ago #9

#5
Thanks Bill Stankiewicz, \ud83d\udc1d Brand Ambassador... it's actually really important to "be safe"...

Graham🐝 Edwards

5 years ago #8

#4
There is something to be said about pushing the envelop and finding our own way... thanks of rah comment Tausif Mundrawala

Graham🐝 Edwards

5 years ago #7

#3
So true CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit... so true. Thx for the comment.

Graham🐝 Edwards

5 years ago #6

#2
Thanks Jerry Fletcher... I work under the theory that what we say, what we think and what we do are all mutually exclusive. It's a wonder we get anything done... lol

Graham🐝 Edwards

5 years ago #5

#1
Thanks for the insights Neil Smith... definitely clarifies a couple of things... lol

Bill Stankiewicz

5 years ago #4

Sweet story, Be Bold but please be safe :~)) , wonderful story & made me remember of similar events

CityVP Manjit

5 years ago #3

Here is the kicker, I ensure that my kids and even grand-kids did not get away with the crazy things I did as a kid and that I could get away with and in turn I know from my own actions what a nightmare my kids would be if they did half the things that I did in my childhood. So your mother was wise because smart adults can start out life as mischievous little buggers - and so a little bit of tough love can be useful to restore some order and sanity, at least from a parenting point of view. In retrospect I did not get any major benefit from being spoiled and playing my parents as a child - but I did not spoil my own kids and they in their adulthood are better for not being as bold as they could have been had they too had their way when they were younger.

Jerry Fletcher

5 years ago #2

Graham, We wander through a labyrinth of language from suckling to a last breath. Even our Mother Tongue can prove elusive. And so it goes.

Neil Smith

5 years ago #1

When I first came to Ireland I took a while to understand this everyday use of the word bold as a synonym for naughty. With time I have come to realise that it gets used also for a certain kind of naughty. Some unruly deed that the punishing parent might have a hidden admiration for or appreciation of but which nonetheless has to be seen to be punished. Not a word that would be used for serious bullying or crimes of juvenile dishonour. Another fifty years and I may well be up on the other quirks of language I encounter here.

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