Let them live

 I lost my parents when I was in my 30s and now I see friends who have parents who are super seniors. They have parents who are in their late 80s and early 90s. My friends worry about when their parents get old.

Here is some advice from someone who could not see his parents grow old.

Recognize the preciousness of this stage in their lives, just as they cherished and nurtured you during your own journey. Listen attentively to their stories, even if they may be repeated, and respond with the same patience and genuine interest that they once showed you as a child.

Allow them to experience the joy of their victories, just as they graciously let you win in the past. Support their social connections and encourage them to enjoy time with their friends, as they once encouraged you to embrace your own friendships. Appreciate their interactions with their grandchildren, for in those moments, they see glimpses of you and find solace. Let them overcome, like so many times, when they let you win. Let them enjoy their friends just as they let you enjoy yours. Allow them to enjoy the talks with their grandhildren because they see you in them.

Respect the significance of the objects that have accompanied them throughout their lives. Understand that parting with these possessions can be distressing for them, as they hold memories and sentimental value. Let them hold on to these mementos as long as they wish, acknowledging the deep attachment they have developed over time.

Allow them the freedom to make mistakes, just as you made your own, and be grateful that they never embarrassed you by constantly correcting your errors. Cherish their autonomy and accept their fallibility, offering understanding and support when needed

Above all, let them truly live and endeavor to bring happiness into their lives during this final stage of their journey. Extend your hand in assistance and care, just as they did when you first embarked on your own path. Honor and appreciate your mother and father as they grow older. For when they have left you, you willl know firsthand the significance of this honor. I know I wish I could have had that honour.