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A Reflection On The Magic Of Christmas


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Jim Murray, Partner
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What is it about Christmas that makes it such a special time of year for so many people?

I don’t really think there is one definitive answer to that question. But I was over at my sister’s for lunch today and we got to talking about it.

One of the things we agreed on was that it wasn’t so much the actual event of Christmas, because for a lot of people it’s actually a bit anti-climactic.

It’s really more about the anticipation. The whole idea that this is going to be a nice cozy time when you can relax, eat a little too much, drink a little too much, and walk around with a warm fuzzy feeling that you don’t try and rationalize or understand.

It’s a time when you can look outside and see big fat snowflakes falling and not be thinking…aww man, that’s gonna be a lot of shovelling.

It’s a time when a piece of Holiday music will make you cry. Mine is “Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas”, the Andy Williams version.

It’s a time when you end up hanging with your family and closest friends with no pressure to be ‘on’ because these are the people who love you the most. They know exactly who you are.

It’s a time when you can marvel at the joy on the faces of your kids or grandkids as they open their gifts, and it always seems to bring you back to a simpler time. Maybe even when you were one of those kids or grandkids, so excited…so full of the wonder of the season.

There’s not much that’s really magical in the world these days. Not much that genuinely stirs the soul and spirit. But the feeling you get at this time of year is one of those magical things.

For some it carries great joy. For others it carries sadness. For most of us it carries some of both.

I always think of my dad, who checked out around this time 10 years ago. When my kids were young, he and my stepmother Di would come over early in the afternoon on Christmas day. And this would signal the second round of presents for my kids.

My dad would just sit on the big sectional sofa in our family room and never take his eyes off the kids. He would play with them and tell them stories and goof around with them and they just loved it.

My dad was always driven by a bit of guilt which was the result of he and my mother splitting up when we were young. So when my brother and I started our families, he was the world’s best grandfather. He really understood what he had missed out on as were growing up and was determined to make up for lost time and attention.

This was never an issue for us and as we grew we all had a great relationship with my dad. But I always remember with a bit of sadness, one Christmas, after the kids had gone to bed. He’d had a couple glasses of wine and he broke down and told me about all the guilt he had felt over the years about having to leave us when we were so young.

I just told him to look around. All of us were doing just fine. I had a great career in advertising. My sister had married a wonderful doctor and was helping him run his practice. My brother was a true entrepreneur and successfully running about three different businesses.

I don’t know if it made my dad feel any better, because he was from a generation that wasn’t comfortable talking about their feelings. I hope it did.

So for me, Christmas is magical for all the great memories that come flooding back from Christmases past. And I find that the older I get, the more vivid those memories become.

Everybody has their own take on Christmas, or whatever their belief system calls it. But the one thing this season always brings with it are good memories. And those, my friends, are worth their weight in any precious metal you can name.

I sincerely hope you are enjoying this wonderful season and wish you all the best.

Cheers, Jim

In addition to being a beBee Brand Ambassador, Jim Murray is a blogger, marketer and creative professional. His partner, Charlene Norman is marketing strategist and operations tactician. Their collaboration, Bullet Proof Consulting, specializes in Brand Engineering: Helping companies achieve more effective branding, stronger reputation management, greater productivity, higher efficiencies, and ultimately, increased profits. In short, Bullet Proof helps companies change their thinking for the better. Find out more at www.bulletproofconsulting.ca

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José Brito e Silva

4 years ago #10

Parece que vida ficou muito superficial, muito sobre a lâmina d'água. Ainda assim acredito nas relações humanas. E a amizade é fundamental, não creio em quem não têm amigos e seja um pouco utópico. Um abraço e boas festas!
Christmas has always been a magical time for me, even it comes with some sad memories. I enjoyed that old-time feeling when Christmas wasn't as commercialized as it is now. I still have the mindset that Christmas is a magical time to spend with family and friends, and a time for spreading cheer and goodwill. Happy Holidays and enjoy the magic of the season.

Lisa Vanderburg

4 years ago #8

Christmas can be such a double-edged sword Jim Murray, as you talk of your father's burden. My father ruled Christmas by getting us all rat-arsed on Champagne in the morning present-giving, with chocolate and nips of whiskey for the babies. Perfect set-up for tears before bedtime! Worked like a charm :) Wishing you peace, joy and may everyone just keep their toys in the pram!

Jim Murray

4 years ago #7

Peter Altschuler. I miss all those things too. But I'm encouraged that my kids with kids have a very old time sensibility about Christmas. My kids without kids don't feel quite the same way but show up anyway and always have a good time.

Cyndi wilkins

4 years ago #6

One of the things I do not miss about Christmas past events is sitting in a drunken haze on my living room floor trying to put together whatever gifts required assembly for my daughter...Now that she no longer believes in the big guy, I can enjoy my drunken haze;-) LOL! Have a great holiday Jim Murray!

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #5

For sure I wish you all the happy holiday things we exchange at this time of the year, but for me this is lovely piece that captures what is magical about family, in an age where relationships are photographed on Facebook, but never revealed in their authentic value as has been detailed here. Happy this, happy that is all good, and even good memories may not have been good at the time, but they are memories that are the most unique to us and most personal or meaningful at our inner most being, and that is what makes them more valuable than the beautiful wrappings we place around a christmas tree. Today I also read cartoonist Jos\u00e9 Brito e Silva rant about Christmas, it was a polemic rant about the consumption driven moment in an annual calendar and drops in the word scrotum from time to time, though he does not write or normally does not speak in English, it was equally as authentic a piece as I have read/translated here at beBee https://www.bebee.com/producer/@jose-brito-e-silva/dezembro-me-da-uma-canseira there is a great value in such honest from the heart reflection.

Jim Murray

4 years ago #4

Thanks Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee ...right back at you, sir. And all the bees in your hive.

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #3

I wish you nothing but the best! Merry Christmas!

Jim Murray

4 years ago #2

Let's hope that turns out not to be unpleasant.
best wishes and merry christmas Jim Murray

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